High Expectations

I think it is important to set GOALS in life. This is a task that I try to do periodically--daily, weekly, yearly, and even long term. Personally, I have to write them down or else they become nothing more than vaporizing thoughts in my head that I won't remember thirty minutes after they were birthed. Goals give you something to focus on and something to work towards. Goals are important to have in every aspect of life: relationships, school, career, financial, etc etc etc. In case you can't tell, I am a HUGE advocate of setting goals--even my goals have goals. If you don't have goals, then what are you actually trying to achieve? People tend to meander around life from day to day with no real clear purpose and nothing substantial to strive for and that is just pure sillyness if you ask me. How can you make something of yourself if you don't know your purpose?

Another thought occurred to me during one of my advanced interpersonal communications classes the other day when talking about relationships and such when talking about what attracts people to each other...and I really got to thinking about what I want in a potential mate. Sometimes I see odd couples and I ask myself, "how on earth they found each other!?!" And that is usually followed by, "how on earth am I still single?!?"

Those 2 thoughts made me want to jot down a list.

WHAT JOANNE SLATER IS LOOKING FOR IN A MAN: (please tell me he exists!)

1. Must have a great sense of humor/personality
2. Similar values, beliefs, and morals
3. Proficient ability to hold down an interesting and intellectual conversation
4. Must be attractive and knows how to dress
5. Must be well educated/hard-working/ambitious--makes a reputable income
6. Must want at least 2 and at most 3 kids
7. Open to culture/travel/music/arts/etc
8. Must possess excellent financial skills/decisions
9. Must be inclined to offer spontaneous romantic gestures
10. Not afraid of PDA yet not embarrassing about it
11. Cannot be a mama's boy or hold any weird familial relationships
12. Has to be take charge/good leadership/makes decision
13. Must appreciate and adhere somewhat to health/exercise/good eating
14. Must not smoke or do drugs.
15. Must be able to keep me from getting bored with the relationship
16. Must be supportive/understanding/caring/ unselfish/sensitive
17. Must be willing to humor me from time to time and make me think I am right
18. Must be someone who holds himself to a high standard at everything he does
19. Must be a mans man--into sports, etc
20. Must have irresistible arms
21. Must ask questions about me/show interest in things that I like
22. Be willing to buy me gifts/cards/something for every holiday, birthday, special occasion, and random moments
23. Must be outgoing, and overly confident--on the verge of cocky yet not too over the top

I am sure I am forgetting somethings so I might come back to edit this list later. Some would say I am too "picky" and yes, maybe to some degree they are right. I have high expectations and I am not one to settle. I am approaching 30 at a rapid rate...I am not in a hurry. I would just assume be single forever then to accept less than the best for myself. So far, I haven't come across anyone who I felt I couldn't live without and that's what I am looking for. I want someone to be looking for higher expectations when they find me as well. If I felt someone was settling for me I wouldn't have it...at all.

So I have high expectations? I really don't think so. Just trying to get the most out of life and if the most doesn't exist then I can reason with that because I am happy and content with myself.